Category Archives: widow

Grief triggers…

  Today, I encountered one. It’s pretty easy to encounter them in my line of work, actually–plenty of situations where you might find them. So there was one. But it’s not just that. It’s this time of year. This time … Continue reading

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October is coming.

I know I’ve not posted for a while. I thought that once I finished my internship, I’d have time to post to my blog. Well, no. I spent the summer scrambling to get a chaplain residency, which I was able … Continue reading

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So. Christmas. And New Year. Yeah.

It went ok.The beginning of the month was hard. The beginning of the month is always hard. Because that’s when It Happened, you know. It’s the every-month-sadiversary. I do not like it.And it seems like I spent the rest of … Continue reading

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I would like to thank the Academy…

…Har har har. In all seriousness, I would like to thank psychologydegree.net, a website devoted to promoting psychology programs, for recognizing my blog in its “2010 Top Widowhood Blog” award category. Most of the other award-winners were already on my … Continue reading

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One Year…

…as of last Saturday, November 6th. I was too full of grief that weekend to post. I went up to NY for the one-year memorial service. It was good. More on that later. It’s still too fresh now… I hear … Continue reading

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Things I dread…

I dread October. October 3rd was our anniversary. That weekend last year was also the last time I saw him alive. That will be 11 months’ sadiversary, one year since I saw him alive…Dread, dread, dread… Labor Day weekend was … Continue reading

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Hearts shouldn’t stop before their time

Hearts shouldn’t stop before their time;They should work properly, and do what they’re told. Folks should wait to die, for when they’re good and old;To die beforetime breaks all sense and reason.  No, They should wait, til they’re long past … Continue reading

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The Long Sojourn

How do I get there? To the place of unmisery     To that place that isn’t    The worst of places to be–  How do I get there?Does it exist anywhere? Where’s my directions?   I’m tired; I’m tired of traveling … Continue reading

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at 2:04 am

help meI cannot stand itI do notknow how I standnor do Istart to understandoh GodI cannot–How?help mehelp meplease now…

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There’s an art to loss

written 6/8/2010 There’s an art to lossThere’s an art to saying goodbyeThere’s an art toBreathe in breathe outThere’s an art to asking whyAnd there’s an art to not asking There’s an art, when the dance is all stilled,To hold and … Continue reading

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Meaningful pseudonyms

So there was a church event tonight and I had a chance to chat with a friend that I haven’t chatted with in a while. We talked about a mutual friend (isn’t she great?) and I mentioned having chatted with … Continue reading

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Rejoice? O Unwedded Widow…

I’ve done a lot of connecting with widows online lately, and I’m feeling more and more comfortable self-identifying as such. It’s liberating. There’s a word for me! I’ll just add a modifier. “Unmarried widow.” It reminds me of the classic … Continue reading

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I found The Real Thing.

True love. The whole nine yards. It’s true. It’s possible. It happened to me. And then, in a half-hour to forty-five minutes, I had lost him. He died. I found out a half hour later. I nearly fainted. It was … Continue reading

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